Just married and husband is an alcoholic?

by Ashton
(US)

I'm in my first year of marriage and my husband is an alcoholic. We've been together for 7 years and he's always been a big partier. It's caused a lot of problems in our relationship over the years.

I hoped that "growing up," graduating college, getting a great full time job, getting married, all the adult things would finally make him grow up.

He only seems to be getting worse. He's always at the bar and never skips a weekend out. He frequents the bar during the week as well and he always stays until the bars close. The other day he came home with a keg that now sits on our back porch. That worries me.

Last weekend, I was at home very sick with a cold. Mad because I wouldn't go to the bar with him, my husband angrily left for the bar around 6 pm and proceeded to ignore my phone calls for the next 7 hours and was incredibly drunk by the time the bars closed. Last night he was away for a business meeting. He text me at 9:30 pm saying he was going to bed. I was skeptical so I asked him to send me a picture of the room. He then told me he was actually at the bar.

I caught him in a lie as I usually do.

Our marriage has become a constant battle of me begging him to stay home and spend time with me, which doesn't happen and I'm left at home alone until he comes home at all hours of the night. I have the support of my family and friends, but he doesn't recognize the fact that he has a drinking problem.

I want our marriage to work, but his drinking continues to spiral more and more out of control. Any advice would be more than appreciated.